Sunday, December 8, 2019

No, You Don't

We're doing fairly well with overcoming jet-lag.  I am right back to my nasty habit of getting up before sunrise which just now reminded me to get up from my chair and open the den blinds so that I can view part of today's sunrise. 

It's been great, so far, seeing friends again, here.  It's been hard, so far, missing friends, there.  Arriving at our house had lots of good moments, none better than the first load of laundry I threw into the machine after being without a washer for five whole weeks. That felt really superb.  I also enjoyed about five minutes of television viewing, everyone speaking a language that I almost understood (most of what's on network t.v. makes me question the actual native tongue of the "talent").  We also enjoyed getting into our car and driving away along flat and familiar roads.

The hard part, or part of the hard part, has been answering well-meaning friends and neighbors who ask "so, how was Italy?" "Did you have a favorite part?" And then, "we have to get together so you can tell us all about your trip!".  Sweet, kind and very much appreciated words from sweet, kind and thoughtful people.  While I am on the topic, allow me to inform that neither of our children or grandchildren have asked.  Not one phrase that even resembled "So, how did you enjoy your trip folks".  My father, who I fretted about constantly, had to be reminded of where we had been, despite the fact that, on a daily basis, he was reminded by the staff at his nursing facility.  But, he's 98 and he has dementia.  Does my brother even know we have returned?  I guess our Italy trips have become old hat to them and our comings-and-goings fold into the weave of their lives like old shirts. Still, it would be nice to know that they maybe felt our absence on some small level.

We will soon fit back into the fold of everyone's life and once again, we will all take each other for granted, the good with the bad. For now, we've kind of decided to pause when asked to "tell all".  How could we possibly?  This is not the first long trip from which we've returned.  We know the drill.
We watch eyes glaze over and yawns on the verge often enough to know that you do not want to hear about it all.  Nope.  And we honestly can't tell you anything that may bring even a slight thrill to your own ears and we're sure as heck not going to whip out photos.

I have prepared a short answer for those who really and truly want to "hear all about our trip". The version of my story goes sort of like this.....

We got up every morning, made crappy coffee, showered in a booby-trapped bathroom, hand-washed a batch of clothes, hung them out over a pan-tiled roof for the first round of drying, grabbed our gear, our backpacks, and headed out.....for the best cappuccino after walking past people who sang out "buongiorno" along the way.  We exchanged buongiorni with the barrista and scooped foam from our cups as if it were spun from gold.  Sometimes, we had coronetti that oozed the most delicious and delicate cream as we bit into them. We sat over our coffee until we decided it was time to leave and we went on to have absolutely wonderful, unhurried and unscripted days of just "being".  How can we describe how it feels to just exist in a place that feels absolutely right for your entire being, all the time?  How can we tell you how living without a car in a hill town energized us and challenged us?  How can we explain the need to go back and back for long walks in the woods, ending in impromptu lunches before an open fire at an osteria that was once a mill in a tiny, ancient borgo?  Can we tell you how satisfying it was to look down into a valley from way up high, and high-five each other saying "look where we were and now, we're up here"?  Is it possible to convey to you how sunset looks from the very top of one of Italy's most beautiful towns? Would you understand why we hiked up to the tallest point, not once, but several times and one of the times was specifically to catch a sunrise? See, you're probably glazing over already, and I haven't even started yet.

If you are still interested, we'll be happy to share.  None of this stuff, or pretty much nothing else we ever do in Italy, can be found in a guide book. Trust me.

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